Thursday, July 25, 2013

Will an Old Speeding Ticket from Virginia Keep Me from Serving the Poor?

I've been thinking for a while now that I needed to start writing again.  Writing here is much cheaper than therapy and I have greatly missed the outlet.   Though there are many wonderful things to catch us up to now, it looks like today is the day I write again because I've recently learned that I need a place to make a confession.

On Tuesday, I ran a background check on myself that is required to volunteer with "Action Ministries", (an organization that provides lunch to children during the summer that qualify for free lunch during the school year). Adam and I were wanting to find some charity work that isn't affiliated with our church work because we want our children to know that we don't just do these things as part of Adam's job.  To my complete shock, my background check came back with a criminal misdemeanor from a traffic violation that I received when passing through VA six years ago. 86 mph in a 65 mph zone, (from what I've read, most people go to court and the charge is reduced to a regular speeding ticket.  This information does no good now).  I was living in WV at the time and traveling to my sister-in-law's wedding in Alabama.  I was 6 months pregnant and to be perfectly honest, I needed a bathroom break. My trial was scheduled for July 10 which put me at 8 months pregnant. I researched (I thought very thoroughly at the time) the ramifications and decided to bite the bullet and pay the $500 fine and take the points on my driving record instead of traveling the 4 hours back to Virginia. What I didn’t realize is that in doing so, I was pleading guilty to a crime that will follow me forever. I still have the paperwork and nowhere does it mention a criminal offense or a misdemeanor, but from everything I’ve read, my designation as a criminal is a sealed fate.   The best I can tell, if I had traveled back to Virginia for the trial, my charge would have been reduced.  But once a person pleads guilty, there's very little that can be done.  I keep trying to console myself by telling myself that it's been on my record for 6 years and hasn't even showed up until now.  However, I know that in reality, it could harm so many things that are important to me from a job, to volunteer work, to dreams of adoption. 

Again, I was VERY pregnant and Emma was four.  She had been hospitalized with Rotavirus a couple of months prior which had prompted Adam to take some time off work.  He had already taken time off for the wedding, and we had a baby due the next month.  Since it didn't seem like a trip to make with a four year old by myself, and Adam really didn't need to take the time off from work, I made the decision that I thought was the best for my family (I thought I was simply paying a hefty fine for a speeding ticket). 

If you will allow me this moment to try to make a defense case for myself, I'll soon return to my typical, self-deprecating ways but I do feel the need to defend myself.  

I have put 100s of volunteer hours into my community. (School, church, YMCA...)
I visit people in the hospital.  

I donated breast milk to orphans in Africa and also locally to the adopted baby of a friend because together, we had the opportunity to give that baby the same start my babies got. 

I helped build a church in Mexico.  

I did Hurricane Katrina relief work.

Countless people have trusted me to babysit their children (possibly up until they discover my previously unknown rap sheet....)
Last week, I left my children with a babysitter so that I could be a substitute mom at cub scout camp for a single, overworked mom that had, in caring for her child, used up all of her personal days. 
Last month, I organized and participated in a group effort that resulted in 25 sweet little dresses that are being sent to an orphanage in Haiti.  

I cook and help serve dinner on a regular basis at a local mission that helps men dealing with addiction and recovery.

I'm trying to teach my children to give more than they take…. We don't litter and we pick up litter left by others. I won’t even allow my children to break the rules by playing in a restaurant play area without wearing socks.  I'm not perfect but I'm a good person who really tries to make the world better.  This mark on my record puts my ability to do that in jeopardy.  
Thanks for hearing me out :-)



Saturday, February 02, 2013

Growing up is hard to do...

I seriously just caught myself crying while I was putting away the laundry. I can no longer deny the inevitable. It's past time for me to switch Emma to big hangers :-(

Wednesday, August 29, 2012

Welcoming Ella Grace

I posted the photos that I took of the day that my niece, Ella, was born (April 4, 2012) quite a while back on facebook.  But since I couldn't find it on my timeline.  I thought I would post it here so that I can find it when I need it.

Thursday, March 29, 2012

On Michael Jackson and Whitney Houston......

I think there's a certain solace that comes with knowing that someone went down while still on top. For me, with situations like that of Whitney Houston and Michael Jackson, there is an additional grief that comes with the knowing that the pressures of the industry took a toll on them and they were cut short of fulfilling their dreams (they both looked like they were about to make a major comeback) . I also grieve the fact that their families have to endure some of the horrible things that people have said about them. I am really bothered by the pleasures that it seems that some people take in watching a celebrity fall off the pedestal that they're on, only because they put them there. I think people forget that these are real people that have real people that love them that are grieving their loss. Death is a natural part of life. It stinks but we all know it's going to happen to us all. But, I have to work really hard to not let seeing someone lack humanity when responding to death turn me into a cynic.

And as Jewell put's it... "please be careful with me, I'm sensitive and I'd like to stay that way".  



Monday, March 19, 2012

Happy Cleo Patricks Day!

Cudo's to Pinterest for the rainbow fruit kabob idea!  

And now caught on camera... Emma and Chloe discover a Leprechaun has used their bathroom...
My children are going to spend their adult life in therapy... 




Monday, February 13, 2012

Motorcycle for Baby Milo

So I saw this cute idea on Pinterest and just had to make one for Baby Milo, the newest addition to our church family, weighing in at a whopping 2 lbs and 11 oz.  Isn't it cute!?  There's a super easy to follow tutorial at SweetAprils.  Baby Milo will be in the hospital until his due date mid March, we're keeping our distance since we've all been sick but we can't wait to meet the sweet little guy!  



Saturday, February 11, 2012

What Kind of Shopper are You?

So I made a post yesterday of a photo shoot I did of Emma way back in December.  In that post, I said that I had been consumed with school work, none of which anyone would find interesting blog material.  But, then I got to thinking...  Maybe I'm wrong... A lot of people like to shop and all of us have to (which is the case for myself).  So, perhaps you would be interesting in knowing what kind of shopper you are.

I had to do what is called the VALS survey for one of my marketing classes.  It uses a series of questions to group people into target markets based on personality predisposition for innovation and the resources that are available them.  Once you take the survey, you can click on "VALS types" and see a description of each type.

I found my results to be, as with any other personality test I've taken, to be quite bizarre but probably accurate.  Which would explain why even I can't figure me out.  Anyway, to avoid skewing the results for anyone else that might like to take it, I will give anyone that might possibly see this a chance to take it and report my results at a later point and time.  I'd love to hear your results and whether you thought they were accurate.



Friday, February 10, 2012

Guitar Photo Shoot

Taken December 6th 2011

Back in September, I started working on a marketing degree.  While I do still write quite frequently,  Consumer Behavior is hardly blogging material and coming here to write for leisure after I've spent my week doing case studies and writing research papers seems equivalent to working out after track practice during my college track days.  There just isn't much of a desire to run five miles because the coach told you to and then leave track practice and go work out for fun.   

I've still managed to capture a lot of daily life by camera.  But all the pictures that I've taken since November are hanging out and twiddling their thumbs in my Photoshop Organizer.  Hopefully I will get a chance to catch up on those some time in the near future.  

For now, I am posting the only pictures I've managed to edit since I started school.  Emma started taking guitar lessons in September and she really seems to have a natural talent for it (from her daddy no doubt).   So, we played around, pretending to be doing a photo shoot for her album cover.  I did manage to get Chloe in a couple but for the most part, she was more interested in playing than taking pictures.  Emma's guitar shoot also ending up lending itself to a personally suited Valentine's Day card which was great since I had vowed not to do anything with any new pictures until I post my Christmas pictures.  

Thursday, December 22, 2011

It's a Conspiracy!

Wow, it's been so long since I've been over here.  For record keeping sake, I wanted to get over here and make a short note of our three day Christmas tradition.  Watch the video below to see how it all got started.

To read more about our rethinking of how we approach Christmas, see our first Christmas of Presence in 2008.

I will be back soon with pictures of our activities.

If you're a friend on facebook, you can view our digital Christmas Card there.  There are pictures of other children on there that I don't have permission to share publicly.



Tuesday, October 25, 2011

Little Pink Lady

Emma in her get up for 50's Day for Red Ribbon Week at school.  I think I have more fun putting these costumes together than she does wearing them.  Cutos to the costume store downtown for the "Pink Ladies" jacket and scarves.   Kids costumes on sale for $2.00 Score!  The rest came from around the house and the pants, they're Chloe's..